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Welcoming Committee / Re: Ola!
« on: April 14, 2015, 02:52:32 am »
I'd like to know more and be able to choose a healthy diet.
And if it's that easy to eliminate the triggers and stuff, I'd like to have some help of you, or others, who have gone before me.
The triggers aren't the problem indeed. I know (most of) them.
- What triggers me most is strong emotions, sure. Also the feeling of being tired. In some strange way this encourages me to eat. I've known this for a long time, and am getting a bit better at accepting emotional and physical discomfort in stead of eating it away. It also seems that focusing on the positive, and watching my boundaries in general helped a lot in feeling better and eating a bit healthier.
- Right now my biggest challenge however is with saying "no" to others. To the colleague who is celebrating his birthday with mediocre pie, but mostly to my boyfriend. Who will ask me almost every night if I won't have some chips or something. Who bakes pie, chocolate chip cookies, and generally knows really well how to make stuff tasty as hell (and if I say "no" and he has some anyway, then i really should not indulge too...).
Eliminating these triggers for a full 100% is obviously difficult. I can't remove birthdays or ask my boyfriend to not eat stuff without major consequences. So there's the hardest part for me. Saying "yes" to others and myself on the short run simply feels easier "in the moment" than saying "yes" to myself in the long run. Allthough the latter is much harder to live with of course. It's like a lie, the truth will catch up with me. I know this! But in the heat of the moment, all is forgotten.
It must sound really stupid to some of you. How difficult can it possibly be to just say what you want, really?
So. That's shrink stuff if you ask me. i'd like to keep it to the chemicals here. My family has been struggling with weight before it went into fashion. So I'm not entirely sure what biochemical stuff might have been in our disadvantage. Probably a bit of a lot. My mum has a iron discipline, she's not overweight. But she really does eat little. It's not the weight I'm interested in though. I want a healthier lifestyle. And whatever weight will come with that it is. I'm not striving for a size 2 or 4 anymore. I want to be proud of myself, for taking good care of myself.
And if it's that easy to eliminate the triggers and stuff, I'd like to have some help of you, or others, who have gone before me.
The triggers aren't the problem indeed. I know (most of) them.
- What triggers me most is strong emotions, sure. Also the feeling of being tired. In some strange way this encourages me to eat. I've known this for a long time, and am getting a bit better at accepting emotional and physical discomfort in stead of eating it away. It also seems that focusing on the positive, and watching my boundaries in general helped a lot in feeling better and eating a bit healthier.
- Right now my biggest challenge however is with saying "no" to others. To the colleague who is celebrating his birthday with mediocre pie, but mostly to my boyfriend. Who will ask me almost every night if I won't have some chips or something. Who bakes pie, chocolate chip cookies, and generally knows really well how to make stuff tasty as hell (and if I say "no" and he has some anyway, then i really should not indulge too...).
Eliminating these triggers for a full 100% is obviously difficult. I can't remove birthdays or ask my boyfriend to not eat stuff without major consequences. So there's the hardest part for me. Saying "yes" to others and myself on the short run simply feels easier "in the moment" than saying "yes" to myself in the long run. Allthough the latter is much harder to live with of course. It's like a lie, the truth will catch up with me. I know this! But in the heat of the moment, all is forgotten.
It must sound really stupid to some of you. How difficult can it possibly be to just say what you want, really?
So. That's shrink stuff if you ask me. i'd like to keep it to the chemicals here. My family has been struggling with weight before it went into fashion. So I'm not entirely sure what biochemical stuff might have been in our disadvantage. Probably a bit of a lot. My mum has a iron discipline, she's not overweight. But she really does eat little. It's not the weight I'm interested in though. I want a healthier lifestyle. And whatever weight will come with that it is. I'm not striving for a size 2 or 4 anymore. I want to be proud of myself, for taking good care of myself.
