Different strokes for different folks! Welcome felix!
Everyone here has a different point of view about the right way, and some are relativistic, whatever works for you. The main thing you should glean from that, is that health is a journey, and a personal one at that. You will have to study, learn, experiment and most of all, think for yourself! If someone here tells you something is the greatest thing in the world for your health, but it doesn't work for you, then it is good for them, not for you. But be assured, that if you stick with it, learn all you can, and be resourceful, you will find real, healthful, long-term answers, and wind up happier than you've ever been.
Start in the newbie section and read the basics. Also try to run searches before asking questions.
If obesity is what you're fighting, I HIGHLY recommend "Why we get fat and what to do about it" and " Good Calorie, Bad Calories" both by Gary Taubes.
Essentially your body(And I mean specifically yours, unlike mine which won't store fat at all, to the point that it's difficult for me to gain more than a couple pounds.) likes to store lots of fat when you eat starches/carbs/sugars. But that is ok because you can eat all the fat you want, and be all the healthier for it. Also you may partake of copious amounts of protein. Carbs, of any kind should be a veryyyyyy small proportion of your diet. Fats do not make you fat, carbs do. Fact check this, and then internalize it. Everytime you feel craving for a carb, eat as much fat as it takes for you to feel sated. Good luck!
