Kids and RAF is a tough one when it comes to social life. For some familys it seams to work very well, I am so happy for them. This is my experinces, in short;
I have two sons, 5 and 1 year old, and I let them eat cooked foods when they see other people eat it, although I always try to explain what is healthy and what is not and what long term effects different foods have when you eat them (at least to my 5-year old, the youngest is too young for reasoning). I follow the Primal Diet, and my husband does too, for the most part. We live in a joined household, all in all about 15 people, and we are the only two eating raw, so the kids do eat cooked foods everyday with rest of the family (cooked meats, and some rice and bread, no veggies - they don´t like them). I feed them raw, fatty meats everyday and raw dairy (milk and butter) and they both take Blue Ice fermented codliver oil every day, I can´t get them to eat raw fish, unfortunately. I am not a fan of any supplements, but I must say that the fish oil saved my oldest sons teeth, or what little was left of them. I was a vegetarian for ten years before having him and nursed him for years, thinking I was doing him a favour, only the milk was of so poor quality, and he didn´t eat much else, so his milkteeth just rottened. Since I started giving him cod liver oil the tooth decay has completely stopped.
My oldest son goes to a pre school where he gets terrible lunches (only veg, mostly cooked starches like pasta or bread). I am not happy with the amount of cooked crap that my children encounters during the day, but I hope that the good stuff I give them will at least give their bodies usable nutrition for health and growth. I am all the time trying to find better solutions to these problems, I am not going to keep him in this school next year, for example. The family issue is a hard one to figure out though, I want them to have close relationships with rest of the family, their grandparents and cousins etc, but the stuff that this people eat sends shivers up my spine sometimes!
I think that as the children grow and experience the effects that different foods has on them, they will be able to choose wisely. I guess most of the people here never had anybody showing them how to eat RAF but they were intelligent enough to find this path themselves. I guess trying to be a good rolemodel is the stand I am taking on the parenting issue, rather than having a lot of rules. Strict rules often tend to get the opposite effect, if I remember my own childhood correctly:)