The Yin/Yang of the Internet - some random thoughts on how critics can help
A nice PM from someone brought this to mind. I have found these two similar quotes from Tenzin Gyatso (Dalai Lama XIV) helpful to bear in mind in dealing with the Internet. Maybe someone else will find them useful:
"Our enemies provide us with a precious opportunity to practice patience and love.” (The Heart of Compassion: A Dalai Lama Reader, Full Circle, 1997, p. 88)
“If you can cultivate the right attitude, your enemies are your best spiritual teachers because their presence provides you with the opportunity to enhance and develop tolerance, patience and understanding.” (The Good Heart: A Buddhist Perspective on the Teachings of Jesus, p. 49)
I came across the first one first, and then found the second, even better, one.
A dedicated Internet critic can be helpful to bounce one's speculations off of, especially if they do some of the info-digging for you!
The most unhelpful Internet critics are the ones who don't respond at all.
There is a downside too, of course, as the bits of juicy info tend to be hidden within husks of irrelevant insults and negative assumptions that waste both the insultee's and the insulter's time. Sometimes it's worth the digging and perhaps even the chaff serves a purpose, as the politest forums seem to more quickly go extinct than those with a modicum of flame wars.
It can go too far. Like attracts like. When trolls get out of hand, they can drive away more constructive people and attract more trolls.
The Internet promotes brief attention spans. Arguing facts reasonably and supporting them with evidence takes more effort than flippantly flaming someone.
If one puts learning and sharing truths ahead of popularity, critics are inevitable.
"I never trust a man who doesn't have enemies." - Nassim Taleb,
https://www.facebook.com/permalink.php?story_fbid=10151792558173375&id=13012333374Plus an enemy might even develop into a good friend:
"An enemy who becomes a friend will always be a friend; a friend turned enemy will remain so forever." - NT,
https://www.facebook.com/permalink.php?story_fbid=10150521103573375&id=13012333374One common proverb is, "Better a good enemy than a bad friend."
I don't agree with Tenzin Gyatso on everything, and like all aphorisms, this one on enemies can be taken too far, but it seems to be helpful to see the opportunity side of critics.