I would trade constant shuffling between partners for a true committed love.
Me too. Humans Are Not Made Monogamous Of course, when Hollywood stars or politicians have extramarital affairs, the whole world rumbles. But if we peek into human biology, anthropology and sociology, the monogamous human appears as a very weird notion. We are mammals, and if we look to the mammalian world, just 3 to 5% of the about 5,000 species of mammals form lifelong, monogamous bonds.
Others points :
Bonobo Society: Amicable, Amorous and Run by Females Matriarchal tribal system The hunter gatherer society is among the early societies believed to have had a matriarchal tribal system. (…) Hunter-gatherer societies have non-hierarchical, egalitarian social structures. Hunter gatherer societies there is sexual parity. Egalitarianism is common in hunter-gatherer groups. Hunters will share meat with the rest of the group.
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In bigger size here Humans, bonobos, dolphins and perhaps whales are particular in that they have perennial sexual and genital relations, I mean even the already pregnant women and children not yet able to reproduce also have sexual drives or even genital relations. Why is that? Sexologists and psychoanalysts answer is “for the pleasure”. That’s like telling the purpose of eating is just and only for the pleasure.
It would be more logical to admit that the pleasure we have when doing something means we’re doing something useful for our survival, because animals spending their energy to do useless things are placed in a state of inferiority and would have been eliminated by natural selection. So, we must infer that there’s likely another purpose than reproduction to our sexual drives, a purpose useful to the specie survival.
We feel that a loving relationship bring us happiness and energy. We can feel this energy transfer flow when we touch and caress someone we love. There’s in fact a transfer of particles (mostly electrons) with any physical contact. Energy / information can flow this way between partners being “in tune”. Many people experience extra-sensory perceptions (ESP) and/or have premonitory dreams and such things when in love. So it could well be that the second purpose of sexual relations (other than reproduction) is the structuring of our extra-sensory perception capabilities. The lost of it diminishes our chances of survival in the wild and leads to the denial of the existence of something non directly observable as “material”.
At the beginning of a real love relationship, the exchange of energy is very intense, passionate, but it diminishes with time – most probably because all the information has been exchanged and the same is re-circulating over and over again. Usually, after a while in this unsatisfactory situation, one of the two partners falls in love with a third party. This person coming form outside can bring new information and “recharge the batteries” of the initial couple. She or he is not at all an enemy of the couple, she or he is instead the savior of the couple.
This person being most often included herself in another couple, the energy / information can therefore flow between the initial couple and the rest of the society, which forms a kind of honeycomb. That’s how I see the structure of a harmonious and sustainable tribal society.
Closed and exclusive couples insulate themselves from the rest of the society and loose the most important thing in live.
Francois
