My opinion is that some (small) compromise can be OK over time. But sometimes 2 people are so different, that it would take too much compromise to make it work, and one person (or both) would end up unhappy.
* One must keep in mind that there are always limit to everything. Too much compromise may break you.
* Secondly, Compromise begins if other party is also ready to adopt (otherwise it is not a compromise, but it's name is Dominance VS subservient/submissive). Till the time this condition is not fulfilled, compromise is never going to work one sided. You may stay together, but you will not be happy.
Negatives:
* He is unable to understand EMF % Light stuff. And TV is playing very big role in the social life every night along with disco and drinking.
* One side gives him freedom to eat as he wishes, to watch TV as he wishes. But is he ready to give the same freedom to the other side?
My Fears:
* Human being is a social animal. His whole social life and of his friends and relatives is different. In case of non balanced compromise, it may happen sooner or later in the future that demands could come to eat cooked foods too in the parties or with the friends.
* One must keep in mind too that if he is more inclined towards body than the spiritual friendship, and he also keeps on eating his SAD diet and drinking and unhealthy lifestyle, then sooner or later he may be going to lose his health too, which automatically means less body interest too.
Positives:
* He has no objection upon the diet. He understands the importance of diet. Alone this fact could bring huge change. May be once if he gets bad health, he will be forced to start the Raw Paleo himself.
All these Positives and Negatives and fears should be judged and evaluated by Inger herself.
Earlier one Paleo friend also mentioned that it is very important to take the time (i.e. no fast actions needed). Some people do learn things with the passing time.
I think you're beautiful. I'll make a deal with you - you can come live with me and we can have a home on acres of rural land... away from the city and other people... with lots of green land and woods to walk through and have spring picnics..... lots of sex and no cable for TV..... but you have to come to the US!
Sir, show the compromise and please come to Germany yourself in order to find the love of your life
. Absolutely nothing against your relationship, but big NO to going to US, while I am myself in Germany too and don't want to lose Inger to USA
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Back to the topic ... sometimes it does play huge role to be among the people/community who have similar lifestyle. We all benefited ourselves from this community (Forum) to get constant
INSPIRATION from each other.
So, this is an extra PLUS point and one has to take this into the consideration too.
You see, fighting alone against the SAD eaters world is a difficult task. But 2 partners together could face the world in a better way. Also if Oyster Babies come, then both raw paleo parents could fight the challenges in better way. It will be very difficult for a single raw paleo mother to meet the challenges alone, specially if there is not a 100% behavior of compromise from the other partner.
So, I have also one more fear (the biggest fear) that more differences could occur after the baby is there.
Distances in modern world mean nothing. In general, if you have enough money, then you could reach to any part of the world within 24 hours. So, if one could find a suitable partner even in the other corner of the world, then please don't fear and go for it.
I think you're doing the right thing. Take your time.... and time will help you see things more clearly and hurt less.
It is a good advice. Most important task is to not let yourself get hurt. Healing is good, but PREVENTION is better.