Inger you are beautiful as you are! its unfortunate that it is so difficult to find a suitable mate, but its definitely not because you aren't a radiant and intelligent woman. I think that, for a few of us on the forum, the problem is there aren't any men around who would do us much justice in a relationship
All of you are beautiful as you are! And inspiring! Given all of our chosen(sort of!) lifestyles, eating and living, to find someone like that narrows the pool to be certain. But to be sure, there is someone, or more than one out there for everyone in the pool of 7 billion human souls. But perhaps the reason we don't find that person or series of persons right away is so that we can work on ourselves, learn our personal lessons and truly get to know ourselves. It seems like that would make it easier for us to identify someone who we would meld with, hard to know what you want in someone else if you don't know what makes you, you. I know before all of this I never had any real attributes that I valued in a mate. She just had to be attractive to me and us enjoy eachother's company. Now, I want someone who's idea of clean is not sterile, but chemical free. Someone who can see through the vast amount of illusion in the way the world is presented by the so-called power structure. A person who lives in the present, doesn't take things too seriously but still wants to leave the world better and healthier than when they arrived here. A person who is connected to the earth, likes living in the folds of nature.
When a person like that comes along, shares my core values and is at the same place I am in life, things will unfold naturally, and it will be like finding my reflection in another. And this can happen for all of us. If we hold an image of that person in our mind's eye, see them coming in to our lives, feel the emotions we'll feel to have someone who shares our values, loves who we are and what we are, has the same interests, that person will come along eventually.
Of course if you want to meet people like that, the internet helps! lol Not completely necessary though, just go out in to the world, let your light shine and eventually the right moth will be attracted! I know I'd love to find a girl like anyone of you ladies, strong, smart, independent, kind and caring, you're all really wonderful!