If there's a 'wrong' in affairs, it's the inability of the one to be honest.
Sure.
He or she has made a promise.
Not necessarily.
The 'right' thing is to speak about the want before it's undertaken.
Exactly.
Involving children in any sort of sexual experiences assumes that 'we' know best what is in there best interest. Once again, how selfish.
It depends what we mean by “sexual experience”. Sure, children shouldn’t be involved in pornography, prostitution or any loveless genital relations. Such things appeared with agricultural civilizations based on cooking and grain; they were certainly unknown amongst pre-fire hunter-gatherers.
It’s been well established by Freud and others that young children do have “sexual experiences”, a striking example is when breast fed: I don’t think anyone denies that breasts are a sexual differentiation.
I remember very well that I had a sexual experience with a neighbor girl of my age when I was about 5 or 6 years old: she sat an the floor, her back against the wall with her legs apart and I massaged her thighs. We had spontaneously discovered a sexual pleasure and we felt it was a secret of ours, something marvelous nobody else had ever experienced! My room was on the ground floor and the window was open as it must have been in summer. My mother passed by, looked inside and saw what we were doing, somewhat intimidating me. She said “ah, you play the doctor!”. And I truthfully replied “ no, no!”. I thought she could never have known anything about the secret pleasant feeling we shared, there was no way I could ever explain it to her…!
For how many times in life have each of us changed our opinions about very important things. Children have no option but to look up to those who raise them, to elders, for guidance. It's that way with every specie.
Sure, and no species except ours had ever established a threshold between young ones and adults. What the hell is wrong or bad with sex? We are a sexed species, it’s a natural thing we shouldn’t be ashamed of. Sex is an intrinsic part of anyone, everyone of us has a sex, either female or male. As I said, there can be something sexual in a kiss, a look, a touch of a hand, a tone of the voice.
Things got out of control with the Neolithic nutrition and social organization. Sexual obsession appeared and thus loveless genital relations, prostitution and even rape became widespread. Laws and judgments were needed to avoid endless problems, a distinction and separation had to be set between young ones and adults, closed marriage became mandatory and adultery was severely punished. This had closed the vicious circle we are still in.
To assume that to deny a child physical sexual attention is wrong because the child will feel rejected and unloved is in my opinion simply a way of excusing one's selfish desires.
Why that? One has to be really sick to have a selfish genital desire for a young child. This is a perversion neurotic people feeding on cooked grain and other garbage may have, but it’s totally unnatural.
There are a myriad of ways to affirm love with a child without becoming sexual. Does a parent or elder give excess sugar or allow a child to come in harms way just because it may think it wants it? I have No experience with what GCB writes about,, I'm simply noticing how weak his argument reads in the light of human nature.
Children are not at all complete fools, but giving them any amount of refined white sugar or processed food will of course override their instinct. In the same register, they can’t stand loveless genital relations.
On the contrary, they do very well with fruits, raw meat… and love.
Isn’t the human nature you refer to the perverted one induced by the Neolithic ways of life and nutrition?
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François