Talya, do I know your story?? Perhaps I didn’t read everything you wrote on this forum or I forgot something. Of course you are free to do whatever you want. I wonder why you got so angry and aggressed me: perhaps because I tell you frankly and a bit too harshly what I think? But I’m also trying to help you, otherwise I wouldn’t bother.
Some of my friends, namely GCB, one of his early companions and myself have several decades of experience eating 100% raw paleo. GCB has a serious scientific background in physics, mathematics and logics, he’s extremely knowledgeable in biology, biochemistry, immunology, etc. He and this friend have done thorough and meticulous experiments with hundreds of animals, they have decades of experience with hundreds of people having practiced around them, they have children who have eaten raw paleo ever since birth and are now healthy adults.
They have experimented with milk and without milk. It appeared that dairy cause troubles such as inflammations and infections, even when raw, even from own goat. Everyone can reproduce these experiments: it suffice to eat 100% raw without any dairy for several months or perhaps a year to get our immune system out of tolerance, and then reintroduce milk. Very simple.
After starting to eat raw paleo with his whole family and friends, GCB waited for 8 years before telling about his findings in public, and 20 years before publishing a book about it. I have myself 26 years experience in 100% raw paleo. Is it understandable that I get exasperated when some contributors here who have just a few months of more or less raw paleo personal only experience start to give authoritative advices, thinking they know everything?
Now if your goal is to gain weight without consideration for long term health, yes, then dairy might do, cooked food too.
I concede that raw dairy is better than cooked or pasteurized dairy, and even that it is probably better to eat raw dairy than no animal food at all.
Best wishes and congrats for doing a good job at mending yourself.
François