no scheming involved. men(and women) just need to be honestly confident men(and women).
you don't have to be at a club getting inebriated. I always think you should be in your best light wherever you are, doing what makes you shine, being in the image you would want a perfect mate to catch you in.
I live in a very social community at the moment. I see people chatting all the time. single and couples of healthy people hang out in the parks.... playing, stretching, making music, laughing, out side the health food stores, in book stores, in the library, pretty general places, and you can tell those who are happy, or at least confident in themselves, they make eye contact, smile, say hi, have a short chat with you if they are interested. that's how true relationships form aside from "picking up" people at bars and such. you become part of their lives, you are someone they have things in common with and want to share with, you become friends, friends with their friends, etcetcetc.
I get smiled at by men and women alike in this community, old and young, people are just happy and grateful here. there doesn't feel like so much competition, people are satisfied, enough to go around, share, etc...its a much different dynamic.
ill finish this elaboration later.